My So Called Leto

Who get's your free pass?

Jared Leto is an actor as well as the lead singer of the band 30 Seconds to Mars. While many actors try and release an album in a feeble attempt at a music career, Leto is the real deal. His band has gone on to legitimate success apart from any acting fame. 

Talented actor AND musician... what’s the problem? 

Let’s be honest Jared Leto looks like he’d be an incredible douche bag. We're talking Chris Angel level douche. I can't imagine him as having a quick wit or likable personality. Instead I picture him and Kanye bonding over their disdain of fame and celebrity. On paper he’s the type of person who would normally invoke a huge eye roll.

With all this said, I still like him. I'm a huge fan and hope he has nothing but success in life.  There’s one pivotal detail I forgot to mention. In case you've forgotten, he played Jordan Catalano on the My So Called Life. It should also be mentioned that MSCL was one of the best shows EVER!  Buzzfeed needs to get their act together and do a Top 20 Reason Why My So Called Life was Perfect in Every Way. Ok, back to Jordan.. I mean Jared. Regardless anything else he does in life I'll always like him and he'll always get a free pass for the bad stuff. Jared Leto spit in your face? That's ok, I still like him. Jared Leto hates puppies? That's ok, I still like him. Jared Leto married Kristen Stewart and they've banned smiles and happiness around the world? That's ok, I still like him. 

He and his character represented the perfect actualization of the 'bad boy' you love despite the fact that he's a dick to you. Because that show will always have a place in my heart, Leto gets off easy. By the way, if you've never seen the show, it's a must see. Also in case you're wondering: Yes Claire Danes gets the same free pass. In fact hers might even be stronger than Leto's. And yes she also seems like she might be a lady douche. But hey, I still like her.

P.S.

1. 30 Seconds to Mars is pretty damn good 

2. My other Free Pass holder is Mayim Bialik who is in no way a douche. 

Highlighter Shoes

There's a trend that needs to be addressed. Shoe companies are making sneakers in the brightest most vibrant colors you can think of. Electric colored sneakers that my boyfriend lovingly calls highlighter shoes. Originally I wondered if it was just one crazy company pumping out these blinding kicks. As I started to do research online for this post I was surprised that the trend was supported by all brands. I found examples from New Balance, Nike, Puma, Reebok etc.

Usually I am all for color but this is too much. The sneakers aren't totally at fault. The men wearing them share half of the blame. Unfortunately the men buy these shoes don't know what to do with such powerful color. Let me take a moment to say that a lot of straight guys and bears are not concerned about fashion. They want to look nice but there's no deep thought given to color, cut, or style and that's totally ok. Honestly I respect that. Simplicity and classic masculine pieces will always look great. But here in lies the problem, the bear that has always rocked basic khaki shorts and a blue polo now suddenly has flaming sun sneakers on his feet. It just looks wrong. Keep it casual. Don't try and make your feet look like the newest superhero villain Blaze: The Sun Demon.

The sneakers themselves aren't inherently awful but the only way to successfully make them work is to wear them while playing sports or exercising in an outfit of equal brightness. (Under Armour performance apparel comes to mind). I support them being worn by athletes during their respective sports. However, please do no wear these on a dinner date with jeans and a white button down. I applaud these guys for stepping outside their wheelhouse and attempting something more flashy but dial it back a couple degrees. Either that or dress in an orange lycra bodysuit.

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While were on the subject of sneakers: Athletic style is not always my personal favorite but I like to think I at least understand the basics. With that said, will someone please explain these Reebok's to me? I'm at a loss for words...

Pink Problems

I've always had very mixed feelings about the musician Pink. She's is a very talented musician who has written and performed several great songs. She also does thinks that annoy the fuck out of me. Usually she'll do something great that makes me start to like her but then just as quickly she'll quickly come out with something that makes me roll my eyes all over again. I'll be the first to admit most of my reasons for liking her and disliking her are trivial. For example, Pink is in a new movie Thanks for Sharing. When I saw the preview I thought to myself, "Wow it looks like Pink did a really good job. I may have to giver her another chance." Literally less then a week later I read her EOnline.com interview and my old feelings of annoyance came rushing back. She gave an interview and was asked her feeling about Miley Cyrus' infamous award show performance. This is what she said:

"Am I into it?" the rocker told me yesterday while promoting her big screen acting debut in Thanks for Sharing. "No, I think it's tacky. She's really freaking talented," she said of the foam-finger-loving pop star. "She's beautiful. She can sing her ass off and to go up there and do that? She's cheating herself and she's cheating the rest of us…She can do what she wants. People can like it if they want. I'm not going to buy it. She can do better. I've seen her do better."

Without missing a beat, Pink cracked, "I twerk all the time like a mofo. There's a place for that and it's not on stage."

*Eye roll* Where do I begin? To start with, at least Pink made her judgmental remarks in a professional way and was not ranting and raving. I'll give her that credit. However she took a very superior tone throughout the whole interview. Apparently Miley's stage performance was much to inappropriate and didn't meet Pink high standards.

You might have agreed with every point Pink made and I'm not saying she's completely wrong. My (very big) issue is that Pink is being a judgmental hypocrite. How can she sit and say "There's a place for that and it's not on stage" when she herself has performed Lady Marmalade in lingerie on stage at the Grammys back toward the beginning of her career. She even accepted an award with her fellow Marmaladies in a glorified bra and panties. So before she gets all high and mighty about artistic expression, she needs to remember where she came from and stop being such a hypocrite. In fact, if I was going to compare Cyrus to another musician, it would in fact be Pink. Unfortunately I'm left on the side on annoyance... maybe once I see the movie I can at least get back to neutral because when Pink is involves neutral is the best I can hope for.



On a side note: If you want an example of a star who answered the question a lot better look to Ms. Britney Spears. EOnline also asked her about the former Hannah Montana star. She provided judgment free
 praise. "I remember that age when I was just transferring into my career and doing more controversial things and the energy that you feel, all this chaos going on, and she is on fire right now, she's just a ball full of energy," Good job Brit. She even acknowledges her own controversial behavior at that age. Who thought Britney would turn into the well spoken elder stateswoman?



Visit EOnline.com to read Pink's Interview and Britney's Interview

Thank You God for Making Me Gay

I've noticed the topic of gay hating gays does not get much attention despite is running rampant all around me. There was the infamous post by another blog titled "My problems the Bear Community" that used a picture of (the always wonderful) Mark and Ami as it's poster children. While I respect everyone's right to their own opinion, part of me has to wonder, why all the hate and negativity? I'm not excluded though. I've wanted to write a passionate post about the internalized homophobia that exists in the 'butch' gay community. However it occurred to me that a long winded diatribe bashing our community is not the best way to fight against hating on fellow gays. Instead I'm choosing the road less traveled and I'm going to focus on the positive. Rarely are there articles written about why gay men are wonderful. The few that do slip in are usually written by straight women and full of outdated cliches. That's why I wanted to give you some of the reasons why I'm proud to being gay.

Community- I love the community feel that exists amongst gay people. It's almost family like. When I was in college I lived in a special dorm specifically for gay and lesbian students. There were students of every background, gender, and sexual orientation. Our bathroom was co-ed so transgender students felt more comfortable. It was a wonderful atmosphere to be in. Don't get me wrong, it wasn't sunshine and rainbows all the time. Get a bunch of hormonal queer students together and there's bound to be some fighting. However when it really counted, we knew we could depend on each other for support. Fun Fact: RuPaul's Drag Race star JuJubee lived across the hall from me for much of my time there.


RuPaul- He deserves a shout out for being a fierce drag queen for more then 20 years. He also deserves credit for simply sticking around. When Supermodel (You better work) was released in 1993, I wounder how many people predicted he'd still be famous two decades later. Then after a very long career he managed to create RuPaul's Drag Race on the Logo Network and bring his style and comedy to a whole new generation. Drag Race is also responsible for great gay slang like No Tea No Shade, Throwing Shade, Realness, 'Reading' someone and Shante You Stay. RuPaul will outlast us all.





Culture- I don't consider myself to be on the cutting edge of gay/pop culture. At best I'm an early adopter but nothing ground breaking. If you asked most gay men I think they would agree and say the same thing. However we all take for granted that gay men generally like things first. My mid level cultural knowledge is actually genius level when compared to my straight counterparts. Music, fashion, technology, and entertainment tend to processes through our community a lot quicker. This is made shockingly clear when, for example, a straight co-worker asks you about a 'new song' they've been listening to and want to pass along to you. Your interest is peaked until you realize she's talking about Blurred Lines. You quickly remember that in her world Dancing with the Star is trendy and the Bachelor topical. She'll be lucky if she discovers Grumpy Cat by Christmas.


Bears- I love the bear community. There simply isn't a better group of guys. Bears are by far the most fun people you'll ever want to hang out with. They drink, they eat, they party, they fuck, they travel... and all in large groups. They live life to the fullest. I love a big bellied butch bear who looks like a lumberjack yet can still sing every note from Wicked and suck a great cock. These large hairy gay men have created their own world and even have an extensive travel circuit of bear runs to keep them busy. The gay world is small and the bear world is even smaller. God forbid you're ever lost in a foreign country, find the nearest denim/leather bar you'll quickly find at least three people who've fucked half your Facebook friends list.

Effeminate Men- Flamers, sissies, girly boys, fags, Jack McFarland. Gurl... I love a big queen. I feel a natural kinship with flaming queens. I'm somewhat effeminate myself and yet I'm still much more butch compared to when I was little. When I was in 4th grade I would practice my runway walk while heading to the bus stop every morning. (True story) The logo for the Gay Gasp is the image of me when I was young giving my most fabulous of poses. Also butch guys have no idea how much shit effeminate men have had to endure their entire life for simply being who they are. They have never been able to 'pass' or blend into a crowd. Like me, they were called a girl as early as kinder garden. They were the ones who were fighting for our rights long before it was popular and cool. Remember, a large part of the crowd who fought back during the Stonewall Riots where in fact
drag queens.

Ellen DeGeneres (and other trail blazing celebrities)- Even though I don't watch her daytime show, I have to give a shout out to Ellen because she is a great example of a rail blazing celebrity who came out at a time when it wasn't easy. She did it at a time when had everything to lose but felt that honestly was more important. Some celebrities have come out as gay after their career has peeked. Ellen on the other hand made a statement and broke down doors coming out as gay on her self-titled hit prime time sitcom. After surviving a firestorm of controversy she has come back and is at the top of her game. She's lesbian royalty.


Sex- What can I say... gay sex is just so much better. Can you imagine being a poor heterosexual man who has to deal with all the bullshit women put them through before sex is ever talked about? You might not like to admit it but one of the best moments on earth is when you have a man hard cock down your throat. It's truly a religious experience. I guess that's an important difference between men and women, gay and straight. Women suck cock as a favor. Men suck cock because they love it. And that's just the tip of the iceberg. Rimming is superb. Fucking is spectacular. Two men know what they want and how to get it. Hell we've even developed an array of apps just to find other horny guys near by. Could it get any better? Yes it can! Gay men also love taking pictures and videos of the sex they have to share with the world.


For these reasons and many more, I say THANK YOU GOD FOR MAKING ME GAY!

NY Fashion Week Spring 2014

Last week was New York Fashion Week. There were some surprises and stand outs.

 A surprise favorite: The Row

I've never loved the Olsen twin's ultra expensive clothing line. It's usually a bit to stark and severe for my taste. That's why I couldn't have been more surprised when they turned out a feminine and wearable collection for for Spring 2014. Well done ladies. Keep it up!

  

A What Were They Thinking? moment: Rodarte

Rodarte is usually a super cool fashion label that gets tone of praise but maybe not as many sales. This season I think they were trying to be more commercial. Unfortunately something went horribly wrong and they turned out a collection that was a former farm girl turned mid-west rocker slut. Yikes!

Women will actually want to buy and wear: Oscar De la Renta and Victoria Beckham. 

Consistently clean and classic. The crazier looks get the headlines but these are the designers that are actually successful. Look for some of Oscar's dresses on the red carpet of this month's Emmy Awards.

Iconic American Fashion: Ralph Lauren and Michael Kors. 

This is how you build a fashion empire that is beloved from high end fashionistas to the bargin bin Marshalls customer. Perfection!  

Just plain ugly and awful: Marc Jacobs

I've never been a big MJ fan. This season didn't do anything to change my mind either. I mean... when was the last time you heard someone say, "I wish it had more tassels." Are you kidding me? The funny thing is that Jacobs is hugely successful. I wonder if it's all a big joke? I wonder if he sits around and tries to make the ugliest clothing possible to see if people will still buy it.

Favorite Moment: Naomi Campbell closing Diane von Furstenberg

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10 Shows You Didn't Know Were Still On

You probably watched these shows at one point in your life but assumed they have long been cancelled. Not true... here are 10 shows you didn't realize were still on.

Who Wants to Be a Millionaire in syndication
It's now a day time game show. One hosted by Meredith Vieira, now it's Cedric the Entertainer at the helm.







Survivor on CBS
I'm surprised they haven't run out of deserted tropical islands. Idea! Maybe next should be Survivor: Detroit










America's Next Top Model on CW
The most recent season included both male and female models.








Real World on MTV
The current season is Real World: Portland.










What Not to Wear on TLC
It took a long hiatus but Stacy and Clinton are back for their 10th and final season.











 Family Feud in syndication
This show will never die.











Who Do You Think You Are started on NBC now on TLC
Did you ever watch it on NBC? Probably not. It managed to get a death row pardon from TLC.

Two and a Half Men on CBS
The kid is grown and Charlie is gone... It's time to call it a wrap.










Dateline on NBC
What ever happened to Stone Phillips?

The Biggest Loser on NBC
Fatties on tv losing a lot of weigh very fast. Cut to thin bobble heads with saggy skin. 














*It should be mentioned that (classic)  Law and Order went of the air several years ago despite being rerun at every moment of the day.